Did you like the pun?
When I work with couples at any stage in their relationship the biggest issue tends to be a lack of engagement during the marriage. It's almost as though we put so much effort into dating and the wedding that we just float into marriage thinking that everything is where it needs to be.
Although I love to work with couples this is a major point of ignorance for most couples, including my wife and I when we first got married. Our dating life was awesome and we didn't run into any issues throughout our engagement and in the first couple of years of marriage but then we hit a snag that sounded a little like, "What now?"
Couples hit a wall for all sorts of reasons but what I am finding as I work with couples is that they each get into the relationship for one reason or another [not always for the best intentions] but while they were so caught up working on this thing they forgot to grow and develop as a couple; and, further, they forgot that they were not really two people anymore.
I am not going so far as to say that the couple must learn to "become one flesh" as we see in various forms of religious writing but this couple essentially becomes two persons in one entity. Insurance companies are making a single file for both people. Parenting decisions must be consistent. Finances become jointed. Other than these sometimes scary but otherwise normal events that periodically occur throughout a marriage there are times when you feel like roommates and ask, "What now?" Equally as often, physical and mental illness creep in or there is a job loss and you are forced to ask, "What now?"
To have a handle on some of these issues I would like to offer a marriage preparation and enrichment program right here in Pembroke open to all couples who are engaged to be married and to newlyweds as well. These 3 sessions will cover topics that I have seen appear in my office and other issues brought up by colleagues that will help keep you on track and hopefully enrich what is already there. The key points covered will be:
Location and dates to be determined.
Just a way to get a few thoughts across outside of the office. In this blog you may even find entries that assist in your healing without needing a session